Steve's Story
I take tamsulosin tablets ( one per day) which provides a better stream and I feel that I can empty my bladder. I can pee without the tablets now however I have very poor flow and never feel that my bladder is empty. I'm always interested in the side effects of medication and didn't want to be on this one permanently; I've stopped once and started again.
This was the most disappointing after effect for me. Although my ability to maintain a usable erection was waning in the years prior to treatment, it's now impossible to have penetrative sex. My wife and I are aware of all of the alternatives so I'm able to give but not receive. My concern was predominantly for my wife so I guess I shouldn't complain. Feeling like a eunuch makes me depressed however. Be inventive with your partner and share her/his feelings.
It's challenging to have a spare tyre around my middle which I'm struggling to reduce. I'd suggest ensuring a decent diet and regular exercise.
My GP has been brilliantly supportive, I'd suggest an honest conversation with yours and also allow yourself to be cheesed off with your situation. It matters not that there are thousands of us in a similar situation, what matters is what's affecting you. Share your story with those you love and don't bottle any anxiety up.
Limited ability to function sexually is depressing and my interest is returning which makes it more of an issue. I don't feel like I did which prompts me to question my masculinity. It's depressing to think that I'll be like this forever and I resent any patronising observation that it's something to accept as I'm getting older! I no longer feel like me.
Not sure
I had conversations regarding watchful waiting however any decision had to be mine and my wifes'. I asked my wife which course of treatment would reassure her the most and we agreed to external beam and hormone treatment. I looked at the potential side effects but didn't anticipate getting a full set, so hindsight being 20/20 I would opt for watchful waiting.
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