Steve's Story

Prefer not to say
80 or older
Sexual Orientation
North East
Relationship status
Married/In a Civil Partnership

Tips and advice for any bladder or bowel side effects of treatment

Never be far away from a bottle (e.g., in the car) or a toilet.

Tips and advice for any sexual side effects of treatment

Just because I don't get erections any more doesn't mean that I can't satisfy my wife in other ways.

Tips and advice for any physical side effects of treatment

Just put up with it.

How this treatment impacted my life the most

I was going to tell you about the consultation in which I was told the diagnosis. The registrar said, "Well, Mr Whitley, we've er had the er results of your biopsy and what the er results um say is that you er have ,,," and here his voice dropped to a low whisper "... cancer." Aren't medics trained these days in how to talk to patients?

If I had to do it all over again, would I choose the same treatment?

Not sure

Why did I give this answer?

I was told the risks of surgery and guided towards the "watch and wait" treatment - guidance which I accepted. But now I'm told that surgery is no longer an option: "You chose not have surgery, Mr Whitley, so we'll continue to watch and wait." When I asked what treatment would be available to prevent metastasis, I was told that "in your circumstances, Mr Whitley" (which I have learnt means "at your age" [I'm 88]) no treatment was available. So I asked what then would be done. The nurse practitioner who rang me to tell me said, "We can give you pain relief." Heigh ho!

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